Monotonous turned memorable..
It is a shame that human beings do not tell each other that they like each other as often as they probably should.
Lookin someone in the face and sayin, 'You are special to me'... is that difficult?
Which is what i did today. But i so strangely feel proud of myself for it. Should i?
Had one of my best evenings - qualitatively- in the recent past, after a morning when i suddenly started to feel the pangs of separation some 15 days before it is actually gonna happen. Restless is the word. was pacing about to and fro, for most of the morning.
Come evening, mood swung to the other end of the spectrum..
Dominos pizza (this was the highlight. No words..), a visit to Mahesh, and arattai in a nearby playground, footballs whizzing past every now and then, joined by K Arvind(now into IIM-B) and V Ashwin (into IIM-K). Mani came - cigarette in hand - and asked me to hold it for a moment while he locked his bike or something. And given my high spirits, i gave it one small thought, and with just a hint of hesitation, gently put it to my mouth and breath..e..d.. cough cough, sputter sputter... No.. No way.. not for me. Mahesh did nothing to deter me, so if i take to smoking in the future, blame it on him too. spare Mani.
Anyway, How on earth do people inhale that kinda crap. Say no to smoking.
A couple of smses lit up the rest of the day too, and all is well with the world..
Just an afterthought -> 15 days. To go.
Lookin someone in the face and sayin, 'You are special to me'... is that difficult?
Which is what i did today. But i so strangely feel proud of myself for it. Should i?
Had one of my best evenings - qualitatively- in the recent past, after a morning when i suddenly started to feel the pangs of separation some 15 days before it is actually gonna happen. Restless is the word. was pacing about to and fro, for most of the morning.
Come evening, mood swung to the other end of the spectrum..
Dominos pizza (this was the highlight. No words..), a visit to Mahesh, and arattai in a nearby playground, footballs whizzing past every now and then, joined by K Arvind(now into IIM-B) and V Ashwin (into IIM-K). Mani came - cigarette in hand - and asked me to hold it for a moment while he locked his bike or something. And given my high spirits, i gave it one small thought, and with just a hint of hesitation, gently put it to my mouth and breath..e..d.. cough cough, sputter sputter... No.. No way.. not for me. Mahesh did nothing to deter me, so if i take to smoking in the future, blame it on him too. spare Mani.
Anyway, How on earth do people inhale that kinda crap. Say no to smoking.
A couple of smses lit up the rest of the day too, and all is well with the world..
Just an afterthought -> 15 days. To go.
posted by Girish at 10:20 AM
21 Comments:
I used to be very very shy myself. But I realised it's never enough to say "I love you" or "I care about you" or "You mean the world to me" to anybody any number of times! Be it your friend, family, someone you want to be with... say it as many times as you can. You don't lose anything but the other person feels on top of the world. Now I hardly stop myself from speaking my mind, though yes, there are obviously times I still find myself stuttering. So I'm going to say it now...
"Girish, I love reading your blog. And from what I read about what you're friends have to say about you, you seem to be a wonderful person. I also think you look cute. If I knew you better, I know I'd definitely be able to say that I care about you. But nevertheless, I think you're friendship would be a great asset to anybody. And I feel lucky to just be acquainted :)"
Well, I do acknowledge that compliments like these do tend to make a person happy but whats more special is if the person feels u value them... You dont have to say it, but u can show it. Sometimes its not that u dont want to, its so damn difficult to get it out. How does someone quantify love, sacrifice, gratitude, thankfulness, misery, pain. I have tried a few times putting those in words, but they are so damn inadequate. Probably shud try putting it in chinese, cos they atleast have 10K+ characters. Anywayz, i dun think its possible. Trying to understand a person and saying "i understand u" has a world of a difference. I do think the former is better. Thats my humble viewpoint.
Ms. V is better at words than me, but I can say that I do come to ur blog atleast once a day, stuff or no stuff.
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RA, I do agree with most of what you said, in that "Actions speak louder than words." But the thing is that people are not mind-readers. It's like when you love someone, you know you do, and the other person may know you do too. But when you say "I love you", it will put a smile on both your and the other person's face. Because just sometimes it is reassuring to hear it in words. You don't even need to be good with words. Just put them in your own, however you can, and it will be so greatly appreciated :)
why are people talkin about crap like love and stuff..
there is no 'love' involved here.
and swetha, i did not say those words to anyone. dont see myself doin that anytime in the future soon..
:-)
Well, thanks for the encouragement. Probably will try it in a couple of weeks, when the occasion demands it ;) And yeah Girish, you are better off waiting da. IIM la illadha fig a? I have no idea but just giving u some hopes..
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And going by a recent spate of posts in a certain Mr.V blog, I wonder what Ms. C thinks about Girish's attempt at getting to know the intricacies of "sucking" smoke...
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i realized this point sometime aga... and have tried lots to never stop myself from showering compliments! i mean, not just like that... but whenever i think it is required and see fit, i wud dfntly say - 'u r the best'!
and Giri, the spirits u were in, i cudn't have deterred u from tryin that 'quater' puff! actually even i was tempted to try after u... but i held fort once more!
nee naan sivam da!
adhaan.. i am still sivam. bottomline.
And THANK YOU VIDS.
:-)
No bones about the kind of difference u have made to this community of bloggers..
U are amazing, and i am not jus saying that. One of us almost fell in love within minutes of that memorable post..lol...
I repeat for the thirteenth time...
Temptations are always there. Its just an individual choice whether to give into that or not. And that decision is what shapes up an individual and decides who he is and what he becomes!
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*blush*
I wonder who, Girish. I wonder who ;)
And yeah, Girish, do u realise the disadv of voicing out your thots? Lets say you have w friends who think u r one of ur x friends, and y people who think they are one of ur z friends. Now, u give all these compliments to w, so the probability of u pleasing ur friends is w/x - y*(x/z-y). As you know its always less than 1. If you keep quiet, everyone thinks u r their friends, so the probability of pleasing them is 0.9 (0.1 less cos u havent "told" them). Which is better?
OK, stop blasting me abt my maths, its been ages...gimme some consideration.
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as much as I speak my mind out to the few ppl whom I really do care abt.. at times as Rara said.. actions speak louder than words.... mind-reader or not....
but shoorely the spoken word has a charm of its own.... so should I now go ahead and convey my gratitude to certain bloggeratti here? or will this action itself speak louder than my still unspoken word? I believe it will ;)
and good to see post-smoke Giri not going up in smoke.... vaazhve thavam....
Well, frankly, wherever u r, i believe actions are better than words. When you receive a fone call wishing u all the best, is it the fone call or the "all the best" that makes u feel happy? Yeah, I hear both, but if u really think about it, its the action that speaks louder. If you dont agree, think about this.. What if you dont recv that call? How will u feel?
Maybe an e-card on ur bday cos someone set a bday alarm on some blasted site? They probably dont even remember your bday. How would u rate that? You still get the words, but do u get the happiness? Compare it with a dedicated blog post ;) Its not the words again, its the action..of someone putting in the effort to make u happy..that really makes u happy.
Vaarthaigal veenagum
Nyabagangal nizhalagum
Ennangal kanavagum
Un karangal anbagum
Latchiyangal thavamagum
Punnagai panbagum
Paarattu silirpagum
Un seyalgale vaazhvagum
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RA, you just contradicted yourself. The sending of the e-card is an action. The words in it are not those of the sender; mostly of the e-card itself. But the blog post is made up of words coming from the heart.
And the phone call.. You make phone calls to talk. Talking involves words. Lets say two people call you before a big exam (for example). One talks to you about all the things in the world. You have a long good conversation. You discuss politics, cars, Singaporean women etc. whatever it is guys talk about. And the other one also talks you about everything under the sun but finishes the conversation of with a "Hey, all the best for your big exam tomorrow da. I know you'll pass with flying colours." Tell me, which phone call is going to mean more? Let's assume we're not comparing gf and some random friend :p
Actions are important, I agree. But words imply what you're really trying to say. I could hug someone and it could mean a large number of things. "I've missed you.", "I really like you." "I'm cold." "You remind me of my teddy bear."
Why do you think the greatest of deals weren't settled with a handshake? Words are binding. And thus a contract. Maybe I'll just blog about this someday.
"It's only words, and words are all I have, to take your heart away!"
Good.. the lip is mightier than the pen?
Oh i dont quite think that is as easy to resolve...
Im in a mixture of emotions that I juz cant pen...so will come bak later when i can find suitable words..
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Well, Ms V...sorry to interuppt your triumphant feeling, but I found u were pretty inconsistent and I think u were elated by ur exam that you just poured out without thinkin much. Anywayz, here it goes..
About ecards, I was talkin wrt the receiver, not the sender. And sender is probably an automated program, not even the "person" it comes from. Content and Intent is 2 diff things. I would rather prefer the latter. Precisely the same thing with the fone call.
"Words are binding. And thus a contract" - Emotions are not about a contract. It is not binding. If its real, it shud not be. It is just a way to express ur feelings.
"But words imply what you're really trying to say." - Words are often more misinterpreted than actions.
Even in Ramayana, "Annalum nokkinaar avalum nokkinal" only. Translated, "kannum kannum kollai adithaal kaadhal endru artham"
You can talk loudly about helping a poor kid or a wounded dog on the road (somehow reminds me of "Indian"), as much as u want, but what you do when u encounter that is what determines you as a person.
Actions are often easier to be forgiven, even if its not nice, but what words can afflict are often more dangerous! "theeyinaal suttapunn ullarum aaradhey naavinaal sutta vadu" Thiruvalluvar rox! Valluvar Kottam rox! (cos of biased reasons though ;))
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wowww...good refresher in the morning...
well RA why dont you try expressing your self through words along with your actions...I feel this would be a double impact..and you finally complete the communication successfully with emotions.....
and miss V i will think some thing for you too....
If only you begin to search will you realise the wealth of knowledge and information out there. Obviously, the search begins and begins and begins on new stuff...it never gets tiring...I thot only old things tend to get repititive and boring, so I try to avoid that from my repoirtaire! And yeah, you can keep discovering (hope Im not infringing on Emirates' copyright here). You can always try to do new things will old stuff, so there is always something new to do in this world!
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Hello, This is Aiswarya (Aiswarya Srinivasan). My dad was Ramu uncle’s friend. While responding to Suja’s post on Facebook about Ramu uncle’s demise, i stumbled upon your profile and has been watching your latest contribution in “retro ticket” (amazing work there!). Was curious and checked out your blog link in your Facebook profile and have been spending every free minute I get reading your blogs for a week or so. Why I say all these now? Read your above post and thought it was a sign to share instead of being anonymous. Anyway, one other connection is that Ms Bhavani was my music guru and Amma has mentioned that your sister Vidya’s “ponnu pakkum ceremony” by Kailash & Co., happened at our home in chromepet. What a small world!
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